Question For Craig Kimbrough

Dear Craig

“I had a dream last night that really disturbed me. In the dream my fiance and I were married and she did not want to be intimate with me. She said that lately her mind was on Ronald and because of him she has no desire for me. I have no idea who this guy is, even in my dream I didn’t know him. All of a sudden I became very angry and threatening toward her. I did not hurt her, but I did act out. Then I found myself trying to manipulate and find ways to make her want me. I was very hurt and did not know if she had been intimate with him or only thinking about it. I was also ashamed about my threatening anger and my trying to manipulate her to be with me. I was also ashamed that I still wanted to be with her. Then I woke up. Do you think that the dream means that she is seeing some guy? Or do you think that this is a sign of things to come? Or do you think this is showing my insecurities?”

Is she cheating on you? Is this a sign of things to come? These two questions are unknowns and much less important than what the dream was really making known. The dream was clearly telling you that you are too attached and even if she had someone else you would still want her to be with you, even to the point of manipulation. The dream was letting you know how attached you are and how unattractive it is. Your being ashamed of your reaction told you this. Now don’t get me wrong. As my teacher Mr. Ambrister said “Even Jesus Hollared On The Cross” , but then he reflected and saw things from a mystical perspective. Then he was counseling the guy next to him, and above the situation. We all get upset for a moment, but the idea is to become above the situation. Become less attached to what happens in this relationship. Enjoy it without any fears of outcome. Know that you are so attractive that if she ever finds someone else and leaves you, she will be the one missing out. Do what you must to feel this way, get out with friends etc. and meditate often.

If you do what I suggest the possibility is much less likely you will experience what you did in your dream. You will be interesting to her, even though this is not the point. If you continue on with the feelings you have you will more than likely create the situation. Feel good don’t worry, know you are fascinating, and be fascinating, and know your good will come from her or somewhere else, but it will surely continue to come.

Sincerely

Craig